Marriage Fear of Tying Knot

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Slaves in America used to get married by 'jumping the broom.' Men in this century are so cynical, they call it a financial transaction. That's why some of them don't want to go near that broom. They fear their wealth will be swept away during the divorce.

The problem is right there, in this proverb: tying the knot. The relationship is regarded as a knot hence, marriage phobia. Most men don’t want to get married. Most women do. Let’s qualify that. Men in controlled societies don’t have a choice. Religion and culture demand it and aunties, mothers and grandmothers push that toboggan sled.

Men in free countries are wary of marriage because of divorce which nibbles away at material things like mansions, Amazon profits, Microsoft profits, successful YouTube musicians, million-dollar earnings from NBA, NFL, MLB, soccer and other sports.

Therefore, things are skewed up in free societies. Men don’t want to be tied down while women want to walk down the aisle, preferably in a white dress in full view of cameras for Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and other social media outlets.

What also messes up marriage, are prescriptions started by Hollywood and now sustained by Nigerian movies and social media. It includes champagne galore and a trail of red roses on the floor, leading to the man on his knees: Will you marry me?

Marriage as an institution will not disappear, but there will be less divorce if couples bury that big lie: I love you. They should be upfront about why they want to get married, like having kids within wedlock,  marrying a man because he’s an American or South African citizen or because women want Lewis Hamilton’s money he earns driving Formula 1 racing cars.

By: Nonqaba waka Msimang.

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