Yul Edochie Polygamy

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Yul and May Edochie.

Yul Edochie is a famous Nigerian movie star. In April, he introduced to the world his one year old son with his second wife, Judy Austin.

May Edochie, his first wife is not happy about it and anonymous advisers like myself are either mad at him or praising him for polygamy. Those angry with Yul Edochie point out that May Edochie has four kids, a girl and three sons.

They mention the sons because they are the preferred gender in Nigeria. Women are blamed for giving birth to girls. That is why tradition allows a man to take a second wife with the hope that she gives birth to a son, ‘the heir.’

NIGERIAN MOVIES AND ROMANCE

May Edochie will get over her husband’s new son, just like thousands first wives before her. She did everything right. Loves her in-laws. Looks fantastic for a mother of four. It is nothing personal. Men with money did it and will continue to do till the end of time.

What fuels anger at Yul Edochie, is what we see in ‘love movies’ where men propose in 'romantic' settings for Instagram posts and the couple lives happily ever after. Younger women tend to go for this make-belief. Their mothers and grandmothers know the reality, May Edochie’s reality, that men with money can never be satisfied with one woman.

That’s why they concentrate on holding the family together, their careers or business if they have one, and let men enjoy the African ‘tradition.’ Later on in life, a man with two or four wives feels the pain of living with women who hate him.

Nigerian ‘I love you’ movies that are daily bread on YouTube, are an illusion. Women get married with the belief that one individual, a man, will never look at other women again. 'He's cheating on me,' they cry. It's not cheating. It is just the sun setting.

By: Nonqaba waka Msimang.

 

 

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